Disclaimer:
The thoughts below are
that of the author and are not intended to defame anyone. This post has been
written as a reaction to the current events, and being a woman, the author is
angry and pained. If you are a sensitive reader, discretion is advised.
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As we come closer to this weekend, we are once more made to realize
that we (read as women), are an important part of the society. We are
beautiful. We are talented. We bear children. We are affectionate. We laugh. We
take care of the family. We empathize.
Ironically, we are also raped, made victims of acid attacks,
domestic abuse and unnecessary fatwas (from all regions/ religions/ casts and
creeds) for being all of the above.
Congratulations, it is the International Women’s Day. And,
you will be celebrated, for one whole day by the world, thanking you for all
that you have and then, everything will become the same. Actually, it is the
day to celebrate because of the corporate events, and because of the
glorification of the values of the “west” (or so it is said), otherwise, for
any other Indian woman, it is just another day.
It is just another day of rape, abuse and more fatwas.
An international director producer, decided, that in honour
of the rape victims, and in honour of every woman who deserves her right on the
body, and her freedom to express herself, by being herself, she would make and release a documentary,
where she has interviewed the rapists and has exposed what goes through their perverted
minds as they force themselves upon helpless, sometime brave (like Nirbhaya)
women.
And, the one man, who has shown no remorse is the rapist,
Mukesh Singh, who while facing a death row (which unfortunately is in appeal) .
He continues to blame that 23 year old girl, who was returning from a movie
with a friend (who was a male). The Juvenile, a 17 year old so called “boy”,
along with the six others decided that it is their “moral” duty to teach that
girl who is out with a boy at 9 pm a lesson. So, they rape her. They maul her.
And he says- That they raped her because they wanted to teach her a lesson, and
they mauled her because she resisted and fought back.
And now that we know what he thinks, our own parliamentarians
cannot face it. The cowards that they are, shielding themselves by providing
reasons like “chowmien for rapes”, have banned this documentary from airing. I
wonder, what scares them?
Is it the fact, that finally, a part of the masses will know
the truth. That finally, we know what they think. And not just them, but what
the male mentality is. Yes, I am generalizing. But, I can’t help it. There are
people (yes, including the men; including Nirbhaya’s friend who tried hard to
protect her, but is left with scars of that night, for the rest of his life),
who stand up. But, then there are others, the ones who are downtrodden, for
whom women abuse is a way of life (for both the victim and the abuser), they
need to know. They need to be mobilized. But their own leaders, the very
people, who should tell them the truth, talk about “boys will be boys and they
make mistakes”. They will make laws curbing the freedom to eat what you like
(yeah, the beef ban) but they will not make changes to the juvenile justice act.
They will ban the real thoughts, for fear of repercussions, but will not
encourage enlightenment and education. Because an enlightened society would
never bear a ban on food they like and eat, and would not bear a ban on knowing
the deepest thoughts of the pervert who decided that being a f*C*#@g bus driver
was not enough but being moral police was more important.
The saddest part of the whole “ban the rapists interview”
charade is that it is being led by a group of women members of the Rajya Sabha,
being led by Madam Jaya Bachchan of the party whose superemo believes in shielding
these perverts.
The basic irony of our society is that a woman will always
judge the other woman. And, it is a woman, who leads the way for shaming
another woman. Maybe, that is why, we the women of India, can never break the
shackles of the society around our ankles. Divide and rule worked for the
British to rule us for 200 years.
Women, are just few far apart, endangered by other sex
specie, who will write her own downfall, because she judges the girl who walks
out of a bar at 12 in night with a cigarette in her hand.
Charity begins at home. Women, unite. Stop judging, start
fighting. Then the change will begin.