Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Hi Fiving the tag!

The Cow tagged me into boring you all and telling you about the five things that are this and that! So carry on and be bored! :P

A)      Five things in my room:
1. My sofa cum Bed! The thing that surprises most of the people and they end up asking me, ‘Who sleeps on this, you or your sister?’
2   Big Picture Collage- That is hung right above my bed, it captures my journey from being a toddler till turning 20!!
3.  My big Study table that houses everything, from the computer to books to clothes
4.  Stuff Toys- There is one pony hanging from the handle of my almirah, and there are stuff toys generally all around the room.
5.  The BIG bold stripes of yellow and orange that captivates the fun element in my room!! J

   B) Five things in my bag:

   1. My notebook- Very important considering that I am a lawyer, and I need to take down notes as and        when required.
   2. My lip gloss (es)- Yeah, not one or two atleast four of em are present in my bag. Depending on the nature of the occasion that I might have to go to after office.
   3. Earrings- A pair of earrings just in case I need to dress up asap!
   4. Hand sanitizer- A must, now that we get hungry like nomads, we don’t have the patience or the inclination to wash hands. We do away with the Hand Sanitizer!
   5. Then there is the Comb, clips, pens and pencils. Along with loads of rubbish papers. And a book.

 C) Five things in my wallet: 
 1. Money- Atleast some.
  2. Id Cards- I need to carry my proximity card around to gain entry in the court premises.
  3. Other Cards- That include business cards, credit cards and a Debit card.
  4. Old Bills- For some weird reason I have loads of old bills that I carry around.
  5. Barkat ka Sikka- I was gifted a silver coin on Diwali for prosperity and I keep it with me all the time J

D) The five most favourite things about my house:
  1. My secret Window- There is a bay window in my room, and whenever I need some ME time, I sit there  and close the curtains. No one knows where I am hiding.
  2. My Bathroom- I have a fetish about clean, hotel like bathrooms. The one attached to my room, is just like that. A big Mirror, loads of girly stuff and super clean. One of the many reasons why my sister and I can stay in there and talk on phone for hours! ;P
  3. The Drawing room- I just love the drawing room. It is the joint effort of my mom and me and we are very proud of it.
  4. My house is super airy, and has loads of sources of natural light and during summers it is great coz, you have loads of natural light for most of the day.
   5. The big Veranda- I have loads of plants there and it is the most awesome place to sit during the winters and enjoy the sun.. and the rains.

I tag:
Uncle J

And anybody and everybody who wishes to take up this Tag! Happy tagging & you are It!  

Sunday, March 27, 2011

Do you think you know him?

My cousin got engaged yesterday. She is two years younger to me. It was a lovely party and an appropriate occasion for all the relatives to raise their eyebrows and ask me 'So when are we hearing your good news?
 In the light of all this leg pulling by cousins and taunts by the elderly (considering that she is younger to me...yeah they were taunts) my tyaji pulled me apart and wanted a status update about 'us'.
And so she heard my side of the story. About how the horoscopes have increased our woes in life. 
She reacts by telling me 'M is back home (M is a distant relative who got married last to last year). I was like huh, why? 
Tyaji tells me that M had a love marriage and she got married within 6 months of knowing this guy, and their horoscopes did not match either, but she went ahead and got married. I ask her again that why is she back home? Then she tells me that he used to hit her etc. I ask her, did you get married after your kundlis were matched? She tells me- But I am good. And I know that you are too. But is he good? How long have you been together? 6 years, I answer, then she asks, so you know him. His mood swings etc..' This is where the conversation ended.

And, I was left at this question of, 'Do I Know him?' I think that I do. I know when is he mad. Because most of the time he is mad at me. Most of his mood swings are because of me. I am an irksome person to be around, easily can get on any one's nerves. As a matter of fact, going by what the boyfriend says, I have become unpredictable and he doesn't know what ticks me off any more.

I think, that we human beings are all very complex beings. There are a gamut of emotions that passes through our head in what 1 second! How can I guarantee that I know him? Or that I will not do anything at all to tick him off to an extend that he loses it all? Don't we all have thresh hold limits? 

I can't guarantee anything, but I just know that he is a good person. A good human being, maybe not perfect, actually he is not perfect at all. His romantic quotient is zero. He is more happy with his PC, phone and his bunch of games than talking to me at the end of the day. Hates my nosy relatives , who I love Alot! 
In a way we are two different poles, but thanks to our magnetism, we keep our world intact. Or atleast try to. 

I wish that this becomes easier for us every day. It is just that, easy and our love life don't go hand in hand at all. So just hoping for the best, and yeah, getting to know him each day.  

Saturday, March 26, 2011


I believe the sun should never set upon an argument
I believe we place our happiness in other people's hands
I believe that junk food tastes so good because it's bad for you
I believe your parents did the best job they knew how to do
I believe that beauty magazines promote low self esteem
I believe I'm loved when I'm completely by myself alone

I believe in Karma what you give is what you get returned
I believe you can't appreciate real love 'til you've been burned
I believe the grass is no more greener on the other side
I believe you don't know what you've got until you say goodbye

I believe you can't control or choose your sexuality
I believe that trust is more important than monogamy
I believe your most attractive features are your heart and soul
I believe that family is worth more than money or gold
I believe the struggle for financial freedom is unfair
I believe the only ones who disagree are millionaires

I believe in Karma what you give is what you get returned
I believe you can't appreciate real love 'til you've been burned
I believe the grass is no more greener on the other side
I believe you don't know what you've got until you say goodbye

I believe forgiveness is the key to your unhappiness
I believe that wedded bliss negates the need to be undressed
I believe that God does not endorse tv evangelists
I believe in love surviving death into eternity

I believe in Karma what you give is what you get returned
I believe you can't appreciate real love 'til you've been burned
I believe the grass is no more greener on the other side
I believe you don't know what you've got until you say goodbye
Until you say goodbye!!!

                                           -Affirmation, by Savage  Garden
I was supposed to complete this Petition ASAP, but when this song played in the background, I just could not help smiling and feeling all lifted! And for some weird reason I felt like sharing it with you all :) I love this song, it is so positive and so so uplifting :) Happy Listening !!! 

Thursday, March 24, 2011

Lost Conversation....

There is always the conversation. There is always something to talk about. How can there ever be nothing at all to talk about? Between lovers.
There is always, that little thing that happens during the day, where you wish that you special someone was there, so that you can share that moment. And since that special someone was not there, you are eager to tell him/her about it.

Yes, there are the dull days, when nothing everything seems as mundane and as routine as brushing your teeth. But the urge to share even that little detail is there.

But then things change with time. Change after all is inevitable.

In that inevitable change, maybe the tenacity to share goes away. Maybe the talks become too mundane. And maybe the practicalities of life take over and it becomes more important to not to share than to share.

Sometimes, I feel that, in this changing world of technology, where thanks to all the social media, where you can share all with the world, but it is hard to share your little world with your someone special. For me it is becoming harder to keep track of the world around me on the social media, I just wish that times were simpler and the eagerness to talk was still there!

Somewhere the conversations have gone lost. The plan has gotten haywire and I am not too happy about it!

I wish to have a conversation again. And again.
I know the power of silence, but what to do, when the silence becomes more uncomfortable than comforting???

A song for this Occasion:

A little less conversation, a little more action please
All this aggravation aint satisfactioning me
A little more bite and a little less bark
A little less fight and a little more spark
Close your mouth and open up your heart and baby satisfy me
Satisfy me baby

Baby close your eyes and listen to the music
Drifting through a summer breeze
Its a groovy night and I can show you how to use it
Come along with me and put your mind at ease

A little less conversation, a little more action please
All this aggravation aint satisfactioning me
A little more bite and a little less bark
A little less fight and a little more spark
Close your mouth and open up your heart and baby satisfy me
Satisfy me baby

Come on baby Im tired of talking
Grab your coat and lets start walking
Come on, come on
Come on, come on
Come on, come on
Don't procrastinate, don't articulate
Girl it's getting late, gettin upset waitin around

A little less conversation, a little more action please
All this aggravation aint satisfactioning me
A little more bite and a little less bark
A little less fight and a little more spark
Close your mouth and open up your heart and baby satisfy me
Satisfy me baby

                                                    BY ELVIS PRESELY

Sunday, March 20, 2011

A blessed Holi!

Dear  Lovely Readers!

Wishing you all the colours of love,
the colours of joy,
Wishing you all, the happiness in life!
Happy Holi!!

This year Holi is truly blessed! I got my Bar exam results and I passed with flying colours! :P
And finally, I am a lawyer! No more hitches, no more exams. I can proudly leave the student life behind me, and start the newest chapter of my life!

And I am one of those who believes in OMENs, and this news could not have come at a better occasion. As the  Legend of Holika goes, the evil does get burnt. And today, I consciously leave behind the past, the evil past burn it in the Pyre with Holika and move forward to claim the world, with whatever I have.

I promise myself today, that come what may, nothing that happened in the past will hamper me. It shall thus be buried and burnt. Only the good of my past remains today and I engulf the future with my open arms and an open mind. Bless me for it is a tough path, and bless me more- because today I step out to discover a new me, a happier me and a more confidant Me!

Happy Holi to all of you! 

Thursday, March 17, 2011

The Money question.. Question of Money!

We celebrate the coming of the New Year, with full fervor on the 31st December of each year, and a couple of months later, we end up celebrating another new year of sorts! The Financial New year. Each year as we celebrate the budget speech of the Finance Minister, we hope and pray that somehow there is some miracle and something better than last year is given to us. Being, the earning, tax paying adults, the budget session happens to be the Christmas holiday and the budget, our Christmas gift.
Money makes the world go round. There is some magic in the green paper that makes one country a super power and the other a third world country.

But the question that is often faced and argued about between me and the boyfriend relates to something that should not be a question to argue about really.
Saving or Spending?

I am going to be honest about the fact that, whatever little I earn, I haven’t saved a penny out of it. And boyfriend rightfully says that, had I not had the comfort of a house and getting rides of and on by my father or peers, or the ease of food i.e tiffin from home and dinner at home et all, I would have not survived the real world in the little remuneration that I get. I agree on that point.
But, then I also believe that, if I had a higher salary then, I would not shy away from saving. And trust me, when I say saving, I mean saving some in my bank account and saving through investment.
Yes, I also agree that investments are a great way to not only logically grow money but also to save your tax. But, is that a substitute for not saving money otherwise? And by otherwise I mean, having some money in your bank account for contingencies. I mean, say a sudden expenditure like a hospital visit comes up, now you will not break your policies or investments to pay up the hospital bills? Or would you? Yeah, there is a credit card, but just in case you need some cash handy, and it is the end of the month, how in the world are you going arrange for that money?

 I know that it is a tough job to save money and not spend it as soon as it comes in your hand, but I also understand that, people do it. And I would also do it. I try my level best to not go overboard with my expenses. But I do.
And thus, my first cheque that I will get in the new financial new year, a part of it will go in the ‘active’ savings. I know that there are a million things that I want to do. And I also know that those million things will require lots of cash. From wanting my own car to a house. And on top of that, knowing that if a friend is getting married, or that I want to go out for a nice dinner, I wont really be going out of my pocket.

I may be talking like an idealist, but it is with an idea that a thing can grow to become a realty.
And I am leaving this question open to everyone, because, I really feel that a penny saved is a penny earned!

Monday, March 14, 2011

Just another post on Marriage!

Yes, I have written a lot about marriage. Not of others but wanting to have mine. I am a very wedding person. Ask my newest colleague and she will any day certify me to be the most Wedding crazy person.
Two of my cousins are getting married this year and one of them happens to be 22. She is working and earning like crazy. And there was another cousin who got married in January, and he also turned 22 (he ended up getting married to his high school sweetheart so she was also 22 at the time of marriage.) At this Cousin’s marriage we were all laughing about how the poor guy is in a hurry to get married and how he is being subjected child marriage.

I also remember the fact that, when I had turned 18, every one around me teased me that now my turn is near and that by the time my Bua was 21 she was already a mother. Just to clear the records- That did not stop her from pursuing her studies and having her career. She is the Vice President in a HUGE company, and trust me, her reasons for getting married at that young age were simple and straight- Her boyfriend was 9 years elder to her and had he waited another couple of years for her to finish her graduation and et all, the relationship would not have culminated into a marriage, leaving lots of heart broken.

Marriage, I believe is a very conscious decision that two people, especially the ones who choose their own partners make. Sometimes, due to the huge age difference and other times, because you would rather be with your partner/ lover, you want to get married. I know a friend of mine (she is a blogger now hibernating) who got married and she was 20 at that time. And I also remember the kind of thunderous response the blogosphere gave her when she announced that she intends to get married that early in her life.

For some weird reason, there is a stuck notion in the hearts and the minds of people, particularly girls, that, there is nothing more to life after marriage. That all your life you have to be stuck with chulha-chokha  and taking care of your in-laws/ parents.
My question is, that if you have chosen for your self, your Mr. Right, and then you have not even talked to him about how you expect your marriage to work, of course, marriage will become more of a hurdle rather than a value addition, wherein at the end of the day, you have the person you love to go back to without making any excuses from your parents (if you used to when you dated).
It is also a fact that things change after marriage, of course they do, every day, every second, you make a decision things change around you. Then why wouldn’t they, when you take such a major step and step into a new life!! Why do you have to throw the rationality out of the window when you decide to get married?

Have you also wondered, how the parents get all antsy about your marriage when you reach a certain age, especially when you are not dating anybody?? How, OMG, you are getting older gets on their nerves. Yes, there is the primitive mind set of marrying off the kids at a nice ripe young age, but there is a little rationale behind it.. *Ok, this rationale was explained to me by my grandfather*, he used to tell me that most of the divorce cases that came to him were of the couple who got married in their late twenties or early thirties and now are facing problems. *Mind you, the concept of mediation came up much later* He used to say that, the more late in your life you get married, the harder it is for you to adjust to the newer surroundings and newer people, because so much of your life has been spent in a certain way, the teething becomes sorely bad, when the time lapse increases. And to think about it, it does make sense. To an extent.
Nowdays, of course there are other factors that contribute not to the genuine incompatibleness of the couple but to the battle of their egos, that lead to more complications.
But, I personally believe, that marriage is a bond in it self. There was a reason why it was a called a Sacrament, or cheesier still, the ‘saat janamon ka saath’ concept was in existence, because ‘nibhaani padti hai’ there are adjustments in everything that you do. And, if you are confident about the partner that you have chosen, or in cases where the parents have chosen the partner, you are confident about him/her, then why not give yourself a chance and enter into it with an open mind, rather than thinking about- what compromises you would have to do. Or for that matter the kind of expectations that are there from both sides.
In a new set up, a new situation, the probability of anything and everything going wrong is 100%, but it is upto you to enter into your new life with an open mind and an open heart… yes it is a process of re-learning of a lot of things, but it also a process of making the other family a part of what you have also learnt over the years. It is rather like an education where each is learning about the other, in a very novel perspective!!!
So take a leap of faith, have trust and believe in love!! J  

PS: I have no idea why did I end up writing such a huge post on marriage. Its a sermon more than a post, and if you are reading this- then thanks for bearing it! :)  

Sunday, March 13, 2011

Standards, which are not standard at all!!

There has been a recent surge in the wedding around me. If best friend is to be believed then there has never been a low point in my life as far as going for weddings is concerned.
Seemingly, the whole surge of it is, that, most of the weddings that I have been going to... my parents have been pointing out how the couple have been studying together in schools or have been working together and now finally they are getting married. And then we have been going to weddings where the marriage is between two absolutely different cultures! The one that we went to this morning, was a Sardarji getting married to a South Indian girl!! Talk about north and south!!!

My parents seemed very happy about all these weddings and were very proudly narrating how the couple met and what not!!

All this while, I listened smiled and thought, if they can be happy for everyone else why can't they be happy for me? And the choice that I have made?

Friday, March 11, 2011

Who is at Fault?

Delhi is helpless.
And it needs help, from the psychiatrists and Councilors. One part of the education budget should be kept aside for educating the men, old, young and even kiddos, to manage their anger and their Ego. And then there should also be a fund for tutoring the people of Delhi to have and to hone a sense of humanity. The most recent incident involving the shooting of a 20 year old in broad daylight on one of the busiest streets of Delhi, shows the callousness that the people of Delhi have rather than having a heart.

Yes, the people will protest for sometime, as a matter of fact they are doing that as per the recent news reports.. but then what happens in the long term?

What is it with men? I mean, call me totally lame, but really, what kind of a sadist pleasure is derived from insulting the woman.. especially in cases where it is often claimed that the boy was in love with the woman, and therefore, when that love is rejected by the girl for any reason whatsoever- she is either raped, or acid is thrown on her face so that she remains scarred for life or as per the recent trend that has come by, shoot the girl. 
Shayon talks about the personal rights and as a matter of fact, talking legally we do have a fundamental right to live with all the dignity... then why is it that when it comes to being jilted, you can go to such an extreme level of anger and what not???
Yes, there are some people who are mentally ill.. but then, looking at the statistics of the number of women getting raped- have most of the men lost all sense of treating the other gender with any any any any Respect, or dignity!!! 

Who is at fault?? Because if such a heinous crime is taking place at large in the society- then, there has to be someone at fault.. and there has to be a solution to this problem. And trust me, confining the women at home and telling them wear a burqua is no help.. because women in burqua have also been raped...!!!

Please help me understand, WHY in a country like India, where Goddesses are worshiped, are the women raped and treated like toys?? 

I am sure that everyone is aware of the incident of the 20 year old beiug shot in broad daylight

Sunday, March 6, 2011

The BAR exam!

First- Thank you all, for calming me down! It has just been couple of terrible days!
And terrible doesn't even seem an adjective enough for the grueling week that has gone by! It is always wonderful to know that there are people who care! So loads of thanks for lots of support and love!

I had my bar exam today, and it went decently well! It was an exam and therefore, God willing I will pass and another major hurdle will be cleared!
Oh and did I tell you that, I had to miss an overnight office off-site because of this dumb exam?? Man, couldn't have been worse timing!!!
But nevertheless, one more chapter ends. Now, there is nothing except work, and the boyfriend. And, the twist in our love story, that now his office is in Gurgaon and mine in Central- South Delhi! His is a two hours travel! And, I don't get free before 8!
Shucks, it is a tough life!
But, we will hopefully get thru with it!! :)

PS: I have been really lazy about the comments on your blog pages, rest be assured that I am reading and following em! :)