Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Guest Post by Shayon

Yeah you guys read the title right, Shayon has written a post for all of us...!!! And, without further ado, here it is...

Hi all, how do you do? I remember, over 3 years ago, when I had helped Sakshi create this little blog space of hers. I used to be an administrator, back then. Almost 1 and a half years of her coaxing me to write regularly on her blog, something that she herself used to do on mine, I finally got demoted to being just a 'contributor'. Not that I complained, since I did never manage to come up with the content that I could write, out here. Today, I have no rights at all, around this place. But then, I look at her writings, the lovely poems she has started to weave, the complexity in emotions that have started to get imbibed into her, the strong feelings towards text-book love - all of this does get you all heady at times. I have seen her grow from being a school kid who'd once started to write just to impress her boyfriend, and move on to become a great writer herself, and such wonderful readers. Even if I did not do much of a hand holding, I can not help but feel proud.

Coming to why am I writing on this blog, and not on mine. Well, I have never really spoken about Sakshi, and our relationship on my blog. I have been suggestive, but never really forthright. On the other hand, Sakshi had been quite vocal about it. Hence, I figured it's only fair if I wrote on her blog, rather than on mine.

In the last post she mentioned that we were trying our best to get back with each other. Yes, that's true. But apart from that, there is a very important lesson that I have learnt, in the last couple of months, and I wanted to share it with you all.

They say love isn't enough for someone to live, and I believed it too. Today I figure, love might not be all that one might require, but if there's no love, there is nothing else that can sustain a relationship. And well, being in love and being able to stay with someone you love, are completely two different equations altogether. Just because you love someone with all your heart and soul, doesn't mean that you can be a happy couple, and can stay together. And of course, you can never take your love for granted. Yes, I had always believed that after being in a relationship for a large amount of time, there is a certain amount of ease and understanding that settles onto your relationship. And I believe that even today. However, it is also important that you keep working on it, else you shall find it shattering away right before your eyes.

They had once said that long distance relationships were the toughest to maintain, and I used to laugh away, since I had mine safe and sound for over 4 years. Then came a cold, chilling breeze, and hell froze over. And I realized how important it is, the very knowledge that someone's out there for you, right around the corner. I learnt that nothing can get you calm, on a rough day, faster than an assuring hug from the one you love, nothing gets your heart beat faster than just a wink from your sweetheart, and nothing can get you more crazy than the anticipiation of your union. All of this, and more, is possible only when both of them manage to stay at the same place/city. Or at least when they are rich enough to travel all the around the country, every single week. I do not think I shall ever prescribe LDR to anyone, any more. it not just sucks your ass, but it also sucks all the juice out of you, too, with time.

Well, what do I say? Right now, we are just keeping our fingers crossed, and trying to give each other another chance. Trying to get back what we lost. Maybe it's not possible. But then, maybe, life can be more beautiful than it ever was! Isn't that what hope does to you? Intoxicated!
While I was publishing this post, Shayon sent me an sms which was "Wanna be a part of your life again"
and cheesy as it may sound, I just want to tell him, that what ever that we had shared, what we are sharing, and what we will share, good or bad, are a part of our lives, together.
This one is for Shayon...
'Celor ce duc mai mult dorul,le pare mai dulce odorul'  this is a Latin verse which means... 
"Absence sharpens love, but presence strengthens it... "


Suruchi said...

This is soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo super cute...
And loads of love to u both:-)

Got to run abhi...off on a little holiday...would return back n catch up on the developments:-)
Hugs to u both:-)
The post made me reallyyyyyyyy happy:-)
I absolutely love to see couples in love:-)

Shayon said...

Wow! A smiley at the end of every single sentence? Does show that u r happy. And exactly what kinda "development" are you anticipating, in just 6 days? ;-)

And well, did I tell you that you are a sweetheart?

Sakshi said...

Like what developments? Really? except maybe that my exams would start or get over depending on your holiday scene.. ;P
But thanks... I always tell you that you are one hell of a woman, and I love you.

* hugs *

Sakshi said...

Hi Santa,
This was a lovely surprise, just like the one you gave me on my birthday.
This is by far one of my favorite post on our blog.

Yes you are right when you say that LDR does take a lot out of you, and maybe that is the reason why a couple would work hard on keeping it together.
But it is also right that once you have stayed together for some time, it is really hard to go on the LDR way.
Just Thanks...love you.

Shalini said...

Amazing post Shayon...really. Was literally having butterflies in my stomach. :)
Gonna make my boyfriend read this too.
I hope you guys work it out..you deserve it. :)