Saturday, April 12, 2014

J is for Jealousy

       J-E -A-L-O-U-S-Y

Jealousy has the lousy in it, in any case. So yeah, the emotions that are associated with it are negative, at times also remorseful.. belittling yourself.

I am human, and I am susceptible to the feeling of being Jealous. The funny thing though is, that through out the years that the husband and I were dating prior to marriage, jealousy hardly crept.

Now that we are married, I am more susceptible to the feeling of being sidelined, mostly because of the dedication and the time that he spends on his office, on his gadgets and his stupid computer games.
Facebook doesn't make life easier, what with the friends moving ahead with their lives, progressing in their careers, in their relationships.
I feel incompetent to say the least, that, we are at a stagnant point in our lives, just going through with the motions of our daily life, while the rest are buying new cars, they are travelling, or just making merry. Mind you, that doesn't mean that we don't do any of that.. except the car buying bit.. but then, the jealousy creeps in, even when it is the close friends that we are talking about.

How do I handle it?
I see. I process. I feel Jealous. Then I feel Lousy. Maybe have an argument with the husband. Brood. Sleep over it, and I am fine. Again.

It is a funny emotion so far as I am concerned, because, it does make me feel bad, but then, somehow, Husband and his arms, make the world a better place again.

How do you handle the lousy in the Jealousy??

5 comments:

Gwen Gardner said...

Jealousy is a human emotion that we've all felt. I must say, though, that the older I get, the less I care about unimportant stuff, so I don't get jealous much any more. It's all about perspective, I guess. But like you said, you process and get over it. Nice post! http://untetheredrealms.blogspot.com

sfashary said...

I hear you. For me, Jealousy always comes with guilt. I'm jealous and then I feel bad for feeling jealous and ashamed. I get really snarky too when I'm jealous XD It's quite funny, like a little chipmunk squeaking away but then I sit to myself and think. I usually end up distracting myself with a game or some youtube but yeah I totally understand. I guess you should regularly tell yourself you're a wonderful person and have nothing to be jealous about.

Happy A to Zing.
http://sfashary.wordpress.com

Kelly Croslis said...

So, I am not the only one? I am like you and I see what others are doing (Facebook makes that part worse) and wonder why I or we aren't doing that too. Thanks for being open about it, it's always good to know you aren't alone.

Anupama K. Mazumder said...

One hasto realize that jealousy wont take you any where. Perhaps backward, but never ahead. Isnt it?

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Sakshi said...

@Gwen:
I just wish that, I wouldn't even have to process it.

@Sfashary:
Will definitely try that :)

@Kelly:
Good to know that there is someone like me :)

@Anupama:
The Realizations come much later :)